Ok so here's another great post that speaks to mind... I know I know I can't just post other people's posts.. Bear with me here, I'll write some originals soon.
If you are in this type of relationship then R-U-N! What the final straw for me besides the obvious, was that I was cooking, cleaning, working 60 hours a day, and taking care of littles and the dogs. If only PAM (Punk Ass Momma which is how she will be referred to from now on) could have had some sense to realize this.
Even More On Sex and Chores (and Chore Sex)
from Strollerderby by Kelly Mills
If there's a theme emerging on the Derby and in the rest of the news, it's that women want guys to do more in the way of housework, and doing the dishes or folding the laundry is essentially foreplay. There's even this article on the hotness of a man who knows how to wield an iron (some ladies made a "porn" book of photos of guys cleaning, hee hee). Now, I'm gonna bet that some guys already pick up the house without being told, maybe even as the neatnik in the family. But the bottom line is this: If you and your partner aren't necessarily compatible in the standard of cleanliness you require for sanity, the messier of the two is probably going to have to pitch in even when they don't want to, because that's part of being in a relationship. One person doing the lion's share is a recipe for trouble unless that's an agreement both are on board with.
That said, of course the same goes for sex. You have the clean(ish) house, it also seems fair to me that if one person has a stronger libido, the other person may need to do it even when they aren't begging for it themselves. After all, why should one person have to constantly tamp down their desire because the other one is rarely in the mood? Obviously there's extenuating circumstances (illness comes to mind) at times and maybe some work has to be done to make the experience more interesting for both parties. But either way, any natural incompatibility is probably going to necessitate compromise, and the solution probably can't be living in a pigsty and only having birthday sex, or giving in to the other person's requests for chores or sex with complaining or eye-rolling. Love is lots about giving, and not being an asshole about it.
If the idea of having sex makes one person resentful because they are tired from doing everything, or the notion of chores pisses someone off because they are treated to shabbily and never even get any, maybe it's time for someone to call truce. But if you are the clean one and the libidinous one, well, we'll find you some different porn.
1 comment:
That is exactly why I love strip clubs. Not only do they show themselves naked (without me needing to fold any laundry that belongs to them)....but anything I throw on the floor...THEY PICK UP! Its like, "Hey, YOU! Naked Chick! Come over here and clean this mess up! These dollars are not going to pick themselves up!"
Its the perfect thing. I don't need to pick up from the floor to be able to see some lemons....I see lemons, as they pick up things from the floor.
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