Amen Sista!

Ok so here's another great post that speaks to mind... I know I know I can't just post other people's posts.. Bear with me here, I'll write some originals soon.

If you are in this type of relationship then R-U-N! What the final straw for me besides the obvious, was that I was cooking, cleaning, working 60 hours a day, and taking care of littles and the dogs. If only PAM (Punk Ass Momma which is how she will be referred to from now on) could have had some sense to realize this.

Even More On Sex and Chores (and Chore Sex)
from Strollerderby by Kelly Mills

If there's a theme emerging on the Derby and in the rest of the news, it's that women want guys to do more in the way of housework, and doing the dishes or folding the laundry is essentially foreplay. There's even this article on the hotness of a man who knows how to wield an iron (some ladies made a "porn" book of photos of guys cleaning, hee hee). Now, I'm gonna bet that some guys already pick up the house without being told, maybe even as the neatnik in the family. But the bottom line is this: If you and your partner aren't necessarily compatible in the standard of cleanliness you require for sanity, the messier of the two is probably going to have to pitch in even when they don't want to, because that's part of being in a relationship. One person doing the lion's share is a recipe for trouble unless that's an agreement both are on board with.

That said, of course the same goes for sex. You have the clean(ish) house, it also seems fair to me that if one person has a stronger libido, the other person may need to do it even when they aren't begging for it themselves. After all, why should one person have to constantly tamp down their desire because the other one is rarely in the mood? Obviously there's extenuating circumstances (illness comes to mind) at times and maybe some work has to be done to make the experience more interesting for both parties. But either way, any natural incompatibility is probably going to necessitate compromise, and the solution probably can't be living in a pigsty and only having birthday sex, or giving in to the other person's requests for chores or sex with complaining or eye-rolling. Love is lots about giving, and not being an asshole about it.

If the idea of having sex makes one person resentful because they are tired from doing everything, or the notion of chores pisses someone off because they are treated to shabbily and never even get any, maybe it's time for someone to call truce. But if you are the clean one and the libidinous one, well, we'll find you some different porn.

Hallelujah! Dad's Get Some Credit

Being a dad is tough in the sense that you get singled out as the idontknowshitaboutkidsbutimfun parent. Being the single dad means the now I HAVE to know shit about raising a kid and ALSO being the fun parent.

I read a bunch of blogs about kids and parenting and have found that they always assume its the mom's duty. Check out the article below from Strollerderby... I feel a little vindicated now...phew...


Dads Matter, Even For Baboons
from Strollerderby by AmyinMotown

A recent review by Swedish researchers of 20 years of data on father-child relationships bears out an idea that should surprise none of us: Dads matter.

Specifically, having an active, positively involved father reduces behavior problems in boys and psychological problems in girls. And it has a significant effect on reducing criminal behavior in kids from low-income families and improves intelligence, reasoning and language development.

Why, it's like dads are breastmilk!

"For example, we found various studies that showed that children who had positively involved father figures were less likely to smoke and get into trouble with the police, achieved better levels of education and developed good friendships with children of both sexes," says Dr. Anna Sarkadi from the Department of Women's and Children's Health at Uppsala University, Sweden.

"Long-term benefits included women who had better relationships with partners and a greater sense of mental and physical well-being at the age of 33 if they had a good relationship with their father at 16."

And hell, the benefits apparently hold true for baboons as well.

The researchers are calling on healthcare professionals to encourage and welcome more engagement from fathers, and on policymakers to set policy that makes it easier for dads to be involved.

It seems like a no-brainer, but I know that sometimes people focus on my role as mother and kind of dismiss that tall guy standing next to me who knows our kid as well as I do. Lots of the networking that goes on among parents tends to be mother-focused. A little more dad love would be good for everybody, methinks.

Just Get IT Done...

Dealing with an IT group is very similar to dealing with a 5 year old...

"Just do it when I ask you to please so that I don't have to ask you over and over again."

The beauty about dealing with the actually kid is that you do have some "control". I've been a liaison between the Business side and the Engineering side of multiple multi million dollar corporations for almost 10 years now and I thank my lucky stars for this ahem, skill. In fact it does translate well to kids in either defusing an argument or buttering things up a bit in order to GSD (Get shit done).

The main challenge I have here, when dealing with my child, is that I am at the top of the chain. No mom = no CTO to get his/her people to do as I ask. No complaints, just a challenge. I've learned the hard way that I need to stick to my guns at home...at least until I get bamboozled into a bribe I can't refuse. shit.

Apartment in a Box...

Sung to the tune of "Dick in a Box"... Shai I got one up on you (See Post here: http://24dollarsoftrinkets.blogspot.com/2008/02/its-couch-in-box.html)



Apartment in a box bitch!

A Pink Wig, Ketamine, and Thinly Sliced Fish

So I've gotten a lot of questions as to who is Maccio Carpaccio... Here's the true story rather than keep you all guessing.

A long time ago, during the 1st or 2nd Tibetan Freedom Festival in DC......

Somehow, the lead guitarist (name rhymes with bone) from this band called Pearl Jam, ended up at the Glebe house. Well after a nice night of typical 308 debauchery and a pink wig on said guitarist, I was called to come and give him a ride to the hotel so that he wouldn't miss the show.

It was 10am and me being a good boy and getting some sleep, I was called as nobody else could drive. I arrive, get the pink wig off his head, the girls off his arm, get him in the car, breakfast and off to the hotel. As we get to the hotel, he invites me back for lunch on him for being his savior and buying him breakfast. I said cool see you later. Before I leave, and this is a quote.."Ask for Maccio Carpaccio. Thats what I register as so that groupies and crazies don't know I'm here. It literally translates to thinly sliced yellowtail."

It's all in the name... thanks bro. Hilarious

They are Called Cliche's for a Reason...

Life is short, enjoy as much as you can....

You are an inspiration to us all who only dream about living life to the fullest.
May you chill with Buddha and make him laugh as much as you made us laugh in your next Journey.

RIP Jersey Mike.

Word of Wisdom

"If you are going through Hell, keep going." - Winston Churchill

Wax in our Toes

Addicted to the wax and sand that gets stuck on and between my toes, carried up and somehow, over time, ends up in my bed. Love my Volvo. Loving my veggies. Tomatoes, i could eat like an apple...Blueberries by the handful. Corn, steamed and stuck in your teeth. Avocados, guacamole or by the half with a spoon. Salmon w/ jasmine rice and green beans. Artichokes steamed for the hearts and the leftover water makes great tea! I love FOOD! Yum... Dont forget the Stella Artois...ok and the wine! I love to sleep with the windows open, i like to drive around and just think...I like to wake up really early and get coffee and go look at the waves. Its the best when its the middle of winter (California winter i might note..not really winter compared to places where you actually feel the seasons changing), when the air is cold, you can roll down the windows and put the heater on your feet. The best feeling in the world, is when you duck dive under waves. My favorite smell is fresh laundry and clean air. And that scent your girlfriend leaves on your pillow. I like taking part in random acts of kindness and conducting positive energy to those around me. I take pride in striving towards being one of the best friends any of my friends will ever have. Taking care of my Kaia, family and friends come first, then myself. I love living alone, its one of the best decisions i ever made for myself. Ive learned that a strong foundation is necessary in the attempt to live out your dreams. Everything in moderation. Honesty is always the best policy and patience is key. I have huge amounts of love and appreciation for the life i have been given. Thanks TP.